Beccalynn married a Counting Mutant. Together they created a Renaissance family. Wild Oat found them in his 20s and now is married with three kids. Ase and Zany, former dancers who now bravely face life as emerging adults. Girly dances, collects dead things and faces her teen years with superpower logic. Creatively they navigate life through Jesus’ gift, asking uncomfortable questions to discover the deep love that awaits us all.
I am always the last one to leave. A party, a theme park,
church. An argument isn't over unless true harmony exists for all involved,
much to The Counting Mutant’s irritation. A decision is weighted upon all
collectible options. In all situations, affirming and confrontational, I do not
Some consider this diligence a personality flaw.
My soul screams this mantra to my head: to quit in the face
difficulty, cheapens the experience of life.
When in conflict with person or situation; first comes the
talking. There is an echo inside my head, so the only way to hear myself think
is out loud. Unfortunately that means someone has to listen until a piece of
solution reveals itself. Only when I have exhausted all avenues of resolution
will I resign.
“Just as iron sharpens iron, a person sharpens the character
of his friend” Proverbs 27:17
What people don’t recall when they throw around this cliché
You can’t have sharp
iron without sparks.
Within interaction there will be controversy. To end a relationship
or an experience because of difficulty, compromises the value of the life we
have been given. To work through these differences creates a better life story.
The Counting Mutant took part in a business philosophy
course. Close to the end, he was invited to continue in an advanced level. He
said yes. At the end of the course, life happened which complicated his ability
to continue. During the final conference the offer to continue was extended.
This time he declined. The instructor of
the course spoke to the many that changed their answer. He challenged them to
examine their behavior. Was this a
common practice in business or their personal life where an agreement was made
and then broken? The instructor introduced
the word reneging: to break a promise or go back on an agreement.
The consequences of reneging of reneging are; people become leery of your word and question the reliability of it.
The shame of quitting evaporated. My
real issue was about reneging. Whenever a commitment needs to be made, I am
thoughtful and count the cost. I never want to jeopardize a person’s trust or
faith in me. Through disagreements we learn about each other. This is why the idea of quitting is
unreasonable to me. Listening to another’s grievances I gain strength and
wisdom. There is a certain power in admitting my weaknesses and face the
conflict. It grants me an opportunity for a Reality Check. My focus turns to
crafting those flaws into strengths. Life
is the greatest adventure. Being available for resolution makes my life story